"Cape-Worthy Commitment: How to Have a Superman Marriage"

With the new superman movie that came out recently, of course it made us think about how it relates to marriage over here at Live the Life, and we wanted to let you all in on a little secret:

You do NOT have to be a super hero in order to have a Superman Marriage!

But you DO need to remember a few key principles:

• A Cape-worthy Commitment is really just a matter of mind!

  
  

  Let's face it - our grandparents and great grandparents knew something about commitment that our generation simply doesn't know. They really knew how to stick it out and love for a lifetime, didn't they? They didn't quit when the "going got tough". Why was that?

  
  

  Perhaps it was easier for them. Perhaps they had better marriages. Perhaps they had better resources. Actually - if you've ever had a conversation with your grandparents, you might be surprised to learn that it was harder for them and they had less resources (if any), and most of the time they had even more difficult marriages than we can possibly imagine. So what in the world kept them together? RESOLVE! They stuck it out because they made up their minds to!

  
  

  They didn't give themselves an "out". They may not have always felt like they had the strength of a superhero, but they didn't allow themselves to dream about an exit plan. They just pushed through and took it one day at a time. They had to set their minds on loving the spouse they had instead of daydreaming about a new one.

  
  

  Like Superman, marriage superheros simply refuse to give up and keep on pushing through!

• Selflessness is a Superpower that allows a marriage to last a lifetime!

One of the biggest contributors to divorce is...Selfishness! We see so many couples struggling because they are focused on getting their own needs met instead of meeting their spouse's needs. During our Adventures in Marriage classes, we have couples take an assessment and learn what their own needs are, as well as their spouse's, but we also encourage each spouse to focus on how they can meet their spouse's needs first, instead of focusing on their spouse not meeting their own need. A beautiful marriage is made up of 2 people who are both looking out for each other instead of themself first. There truly is no room for selfishness in marriage!

• The battle won't be easy but will certainly be worth it!

Have you ever heard the saying "The harder the conflict, the greater the triumph"? It's true! All the easy victories in life are not the ones that we celebrate! It's the really hard- won victories that we celebrate so big! Marriage is seldom easy! You may have some easy and relaxing moments or seasons throughout your marriage, but if you've been married for any length of time, you know that marriage can be quite the challenge!

You take 2 different personalities from 2 different backgrounds, with very different opionions and perspectives and ideas - trying to become ONE and you've got quite the perfect recipe for fireworks (not the good kind)! If you ask any couple whose been married for 30 years or more though, they would most likely tell you that all the difficult days and years were worth fighting for. You don't get through life (or marriage) unscathed. You will most definlty have some battle wounds, but you'll also leave one heck of a legacy for your children and grandchildren and for generations that you may never get to meet!

If you are wanting this kind of marriage, but need some help tapping into your superpowers, we are here to help you!! We can help you learn how to:

1. Shift your Mindset

2. Meet your Spoues's needs &

3. Battle like a superhero to save (or refresh) your marriage

If you want to know more about how you can do all of this and more (at no cost to you) - check out our classes HERE! We can't wait to come alongside you and help you tap into your marriage superpowers!